Gibah or gossiping is something that we often see, there is even a stereotype that encouragement for mothers who are gathered is common. Whereas, in fact, this type of disgraceful nature has absolutely nothing to do with gender at all, all groups of various types of backgrounds have the same potential to fall into this oral danger, even as they have the potential to be able to avoid this.
The definition of deceit as said by the Prophet narrated by the Muslim Imam in The Shahinya is
When you say about your brother about things he did not like (if it appears), al-Ghazali explained in Ihya ' he said that 'telling' there is not only valid for oral purposes, but also in addition to imitating, imposing or even something which is essentially the same purpose as hadith explained.
Here are among the things that often trigger bro. This has been explained by Imam al-Ghazali in his Ihya 'Ulumiddin :
This usually occurs when we are angry at someone but difficult or there is no chance to vent the anger on that person. This is where the impingement by means of the booby appears. So as a result of the impingement, it was mentioned the shortcomings of the frustrated person.
Second, did not want to be left behind in the chat.
This usually occurs when the interlocutor starts, so as not to miss chat finally someone took part in the upheaval by contributing to the disgrace of others he knew.
[1945-1926] Third, to look superior.
By mentioning the shortcomings of others, he wanted the person
 Fourth, envy.
This usually appears when seeing so many other people reaping praise, support or something like that, while he who hopes is precisely not so got it.
Fifth, funny. This usually appears when in a joke filled with laughter and then runs out of ingredients to make his friends laugh again. That's where he mentioned the shortcomings of others as material for his speech.
Efforts to avoid it
“To avoid an illness, stay away from the causes.” Thus the simple causality formula. This formula also applies if we want to try to avoid the upheaval.
It is imperative for us to avoid a number of causes that can encourage us to carry out the upheaval as above. If we have the notion that avoid it very very difficult, we should look at the advice of al-Ghazali about addressing mindset were thus:
الإنسان إذا افترقت همته في شيء أظهر اليأس منه واستعظم الأمر واستوعر الطريق وإذا صح منه الهوى اهْتَدَى إِلَى الْحِيَلِ وَاسْتَنْبَطَ بِدَقِيقِ النَّظَرِ خَفَايَا الطرق فِي الْوُصُولِ إِلَى الْغَرَضِ
“ Human nature, when nothing has been discouraged by the pursuit, then what seems to be impossibility, then things that seem heavy for him and the shadow of the difficulty of the road he traveled. Unlike the case when he really wants something, then what first appears is – not the size of the problem but (pen) -, how to achieve it and the mind constantly to find a way and reproach so that he arrived at that goal . “
Well, if you still feel impossible, it can be your intention or willingness that you have not really achieved it, like fishermen who are looking for diamonds on the seabed or like the story of Khamim Pekalongan who goes on Hajj on foot.
Allah knows best
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