For some people, arguing has become part of the lifestyle. As if life is lacking if it does not fill the day with debates that will somehow end. In fact, arguing turns out to make the body unhealthy. This does not mean that we should not differ in opinion, but, should all differences be ended with debate?
One of the most frequently used fields to carry out various recent debates is social media. In this field, people tend to be more fierce, more violent and easier to attack. There is a lot of research on this matter, one of which is because people tend to feel more free to do anything in cyberspace than in the 'real world'.
New Statesman magazine released survey results about the psychological reactions and effects of debating on social media. According to the survey, 60% of respondents totaling 385 claimed their hearts and adrelanins were beating faster when involved in online debates, 50% of respondents even claimed to be emotionally provoked during the debate.
27.5% of respondents stated that frustration was a reaction the emotions they most often feel when engaged in debate. While 13.5% of respondents claimed to suffer more, they were often afflicted with anger. This data continues with various reactions and psychological effects of the debate, with none of the data showing that there are people who are happy with the debate.
One of the leading psychologists, Dr. Dawn Barnley, even mentioning that the debate on social media is not a catharsis or the release of negative energy, precisely – as revealed from various related studies – debates in online media hoard more negative energy.
Then, why are we still easily provoked to argue?  One axis for the flames of debate is prejudice. As the name implies, prejudice is a presumption that is pinned before proof. At some stage, prejudice that is not immediately contested with facts will clump into blind beliefs; a belief that must not be questioned, much less doubtful.
In Islam, Allah repeatedly instructs us to stay away from prejudice. In QS Yunus: 36 for example, Allah affirms that “Indeed the prejudice does not bring any truth!” In another verse, in QS Al Hujurat: 12, Allah even mentions a portion of prejudice is sin.
ياَأَيُّهاَ الَّذِيْنَ أَمَنُوْا إجْتَنِبُوْا كَثِيْرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ (الحجرات 12)
“O ye who believe, stay away from multiplying prejudice, because some prejudices are sins.”
Regarding “some prejudices” as mentioned in the verse above, Imam Sufyan al- Tsauri explained that prejudice is of two types; and only one type falls into the category of sinful prejudice.
These two types of prejudice are expressed prejudices and prejudices that are only stored in the heart. The first type of prejudice is what he calls sinful prejudice.
Even so, it does not mean that we are allowed to keep prejudices in our hearts, because it could be, the prejudices expressed are from long-held suspicions. Therefore, we should cleanse ourselves of various types of prejudice.
“Fear you are prejudiced, because it is a lie of words,” said the prophet as narrated by Imam al-Tirmidzi of Abu Hurairah ra
Eliminating prejudice is a step early to avoid debate. We certainly may not agree with the opinions or views of others, but we do not have to choose debate as a path of resolution.
Please take an opinion, but still with the principle of mutual respect.
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