Rida Allah Almighty is in the pleasure of parents, Allah's anger is in the anger of parents. Parents' prayers penetrate the sky. Munajat both told the owner of the world and everything was always flowing every day. Of the five prayer times and one third of the night. Never stop.
Sometimes, both of them are angry because of our behavior. However, anger is one form of love. Because really, there are no good parents who are angry with children for worldly reasons and selfishness. Parents always want the goodness of their children, although sometimes the desire of parents is not our absolute desire. But know, that giving happiness to both of them by holding back our ego is a noble thing that a child can do.
For example, when we determine the choice of college majors. Some of us have parents who tend to recommend this department or department for their children. That is the desire of parents that they may have planned since their first marriage. Crave for his child to become a doctor, religious expert, architect, lecturer or even astronaut. And in fact, when the child they raise is adult, the child has his own desires that are different from his parents.
Try to imagine what our parents feel, maybe disappointed, maybe happy by muttering “My son is big, he already able to determine his own choice “. But no doubt, disappointment must come to his heart. Then what should we do? It would be nice if we try to follow and love parents' choices. If it is very difficult, then try to discuss well and politely with parents. Share parents in our way while both are alive or dead. Because it makes them happy because of us, it will be a reward and a noble thing.
Time goes on, children grow up to be great people. Busy with work, rarely contacting parents who are elderly, visiting him only at certain times or even when both are sick. Naudzubillah. The more you contact, visit and share your stories with your parents will increase the blessing of your life and your heart. And one of the most important things is to pray for both. From childhood to the end of our lives. Do not ever stop. It is because of them, we present the world with the permission of Allah.
Allah Almighty says in the Qur'an Surat al-Ahqaf verse 15:  ووصينا الإنسان بوالديه إحسانا حملته أمه كرها ووضعته كرها وحمله وفصاله ثلاثون شهرا حتى إذا بلغ أشده وبلغ أربعين سنة قال رب أوزعني أن أشكر نعمتك التي أنعمت علي وعلى والدي وأن أعمل صالحا ترضاه وأصلح لي في ذريتي إني تبت إليك وإني من المسلمين
“We have been ordered to man to do good to her parents. His mother had been struggling and giving birth with difficulty too, containing and weaning it for thirty months. So that if he is an adult and reaches forty years, then pray “O Allah, show me (give me inspiration) to thank you for the blessings that you have given me and for my father's mother, and that I do the charity that you are pleased with, and give goodness to me and to my grandchildren, verily I repent to you and I am one of those who surrender. “
The prayer is contained in the Koran twice. One of the others mentioned in the letter al-Naml verse 19, the prayer that came out of the oral Prophet Sulayman. This shows how important the prayer is. It was recorded twice from the story of two different servants of Allah.
Imam Ibn al-Jauzy said that there were several opinions of scholars who interpreted the cause of the decline of this verse. One of them is from Imam Atha 'narrated that when he was 40 years old, Abu Bakr prayed with the verse lafadz. Then Allah SWT granted the prayer of Abu Bakr. Abu Bakr's parents converted to Islam and Abu Bakr's son and daughter also converted to Islam. Because the purpose of “favors” in the prayer is to enjoy faith and Islam. Then, according to Hasan al Basri this verse goes down in general.
Al-Qurthubi explained in his book al-Jami 'li Ahkam al-Qur'an which is still a narration of' Atha 'that one day the Messenger of Allah Saw and Abu Bakar wanted to go to Sham to trade. At that time, Rasulullah SAW was 20 years old and Abu Bakar was 18 years old. Then, both of them stopped at a place where there was a bidara tree ( al-sidrah ) – Some people believed that the tree was currently in the middle of the desert in Jordan – the Messenger of Allah SAW rested his body under the tree. Later, Abu Bakar asked about religion to a monk (priest). The monk turned around to ask “Who is the man who is sheltering under a tree?” Abu Bakr replied “He was Muhammad ibn Abdillah ibn Abdil Muthalib.” Abu Bakr. Then he replied, “This is the Prophet of Allah, no one is sheltering there after Prophet Isa”. Abu Bakr grew stronger and believed in the Prophet SAW when he heard the words of the monks, and Abu Bakr said to not leave the Prophet SAW. At the age of 40, the Prophet (PBUH) received a prophetic treatise, Abu Bakr believed this and believed him, while Abu Bakr's age was 38 years old. Two years later, Abu Bakr turned 40 years old and prayed, pleading with Allah SWT by praying to the verse above.
Then, whether to wait for an adult and reach the age of 40 to pray for parents with the prayer? No, in the book al-Tahrir wa al-Tanwir the work of Muhammad Thahir ibn 'Asyur explained that the adult sign here shows that when it reaches adulthood, a person will be occupied by many things, work, children, husband, wife and other things that can forget her relationship with parents. At the age of 40 a person will be more sensitive to improve and improve his repentance to Allah SWT. Ibn Abbas also added that the adult age limit is 18 years, based on a history of ‘Atha’ before. Thus, this verse contains the advice that as adults we should not reduce our services to parents in the least, one way is to read a prayer:
رب أوزعني أن أشكر نعمتك التي أنعمت علي وعلى والدي وأن أعمل صالحا ترضاه وأصلح لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ
“O Allah, show me (give me inspiration) to be grateful for Your blessings that You have given me and for my father's mother, and that I do the deeds of charity that you are pleased with, and give me good and to my grandchildren, verily I repent unto you, and I am one of those who surrender. “
Muhammad Thahir ibn 'Asyur added in his book that advice contained in this verse is that we as a child are not only busy with our own activities, pray for their own interests and forget to pray for parents. Mendo'akan parents are one of the practices that will not be rewarded even if blocked by death, and Allah SWT will grant a child's sincere prayer for both parents.
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